Many who have been recipients of this form of punishment can divulge narratives (some quite funny) about their “beating” episodes. There are some however, who can tell you that though the “beating” changed their behavior in many cases, it has left them with physical and/or emotional scars. With that in mind, parents today, may want to consider other forms of discipline. Maturity, education, hard work, and consistency, is required to make the necessary changes.
The question many ask is “How can parents who are conditioned to discipline their child by giving him/her a “beating,” be encouraged to discipline their child in other ways?” There are many things parents can do, but here are a few ideas to begin the journey.
1. Clearly identify the behavior.
- Think about what’s going on, and what caused the behavior to occur.
- Is it something you can overlook? Did it make you angry?
- Measure your degree of anger and if you are very angry walk away until you are less angry.
- Talk about how you are feeling and allow your child to share how he/she is feeling.
- This often give you time to think carefully, which can allow you not to act irrationally.
- Time out, no television for a specific time, chores, apology, no technology devices, no play time with friends, etc.
- Don’t go overboard. Make an intelligent, rational decision.
- Be clear, open, and honest.
- Make your child feel like he/she matters.
- Engage your child in tasks where he/she learns how to make good decisions.
- Remember to hug your child and say, “I love you.”