Though I have some understand of the reasons why someone might want to end their life, i.e. dysfunctional family life, pain, loss of relationship, etc. we must find other ways to live so that we don’t have to end our life in this unnatural way when life becomes unbearable.
The recent death of Prince had me thinking (and not for long) about whether or not he thought about his fans when he decided to abruptly end his life. When entertainers like Prince, Michael Jackson, Phyllis Hyman and others decide to abuse drugs or do whatever they do that would end their lives abruptly, I often wonder if they gave any thought to their fans left grieving sometimes for years? Did they think about the pain and disappointment fans would endure? When fans see people they admire end their lives abruptly, it does leave them empty. The fans are often left alone with no explanation about what happened, expected to grieve on their own, pick up the pieces, and move on with their lives. Fans do that well without the respect and acknowledgement they deserve.
When you are an entertainer, you need to remember that as much as you need to be yourself, you must remember those who made you the person that you became. Don’t indulge in behavior that is selfish and forget that you have millions of people all over the world often watching your every move or wanting to know how you are. Don’t forget that your fans care about you and support you even if you don’t see or talk with them on a daily basis like the people who often allow you to indulge in so much that is not good for you.
Fans care about and support entertainers of their choice. Entertainers, you put yourself out there to be adored by people and those people deserve to be thought about (if they choose to adore you) when you are making major decisions that might include ending your life abruptly. Your decisions or lack thereof affects not just you. Fans feel just like you do, if you are happy, they are happy. If you are sad, they feel your pain. They deserve to be treated with respect, and consideration by you. What they don’t deserve is to be “put out to pasture” with your selfish behavior.
Fans support you in life and will support you in death when done naturally. Fans do not need to be asking hundreds of questions after your death because you choose to die in such a selfish way. Grow up! Be mature! Get help if you need it but better than that, ask for help when life gets so incredible difficult that you can’t cope or take care of yourself. We all have problems and maybe the life lesson for all of us is to reach out to the’ village” for help instead of hiding.
You would be surprised at how many fans will gladly support you in your time of need. So help your fans out and stop the madness. You hurt we hurt but life should be lived naturally not taken unnaturally.
I could ramble more but…
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